“A child is not a vessel to be filled, but a lamp to be lit”. – Hebrew Proverb

I am puzzled by this wonderful proverb. As a parent, I know I should give more freedoms to the kids. “Leave the kids alone!” Is it the right  approach to parenting?

No. I don’t think so. If we just leave the lamp alone, it may never be lit. So the parents should generate a good condition to let lamp to be lit whenever the lamp wants to be lit. The problem is how the parent should do in order to generate this condition, when will the lamp want to be lit, what kind of patience the parents should have. Do you have some suggestions on it?

As for chess, I think daily excise will help to generate this condition, such as half an hour’s puzzles excise. What else, could you please name one?

When will the lamp want to be lit? No one knows, I would like the kids having a good time, the job of parents is to “Wait!” Do you agree?


4 Comments to ““A child is not a vessel to be filled, but a lamp to be lit”. – Hebrew Proverb”

  1. By trent, January 19, 2011 @ 10:27 am

    Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
    (Proverbs 22:6 ESV)
    Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
    (Proverbs 22:15 ESV)
    You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
    (Deuteronomy 6:7 ESV)

  2. By Damien Knight, April 8, 2014 @ 11:41 am

    Hebrew proverb my backside! It comes from Plutarch (Greek/Roman) in the first century. And it’s a fire to be kindled not a lamp to be lit.

  3. By Fishing-boats, June 14, 2014 @ 2:38 am

    Going out to sea with nothing but the wind behind
    you. It does this by using Android’s built-in magnetic declination (latitude and longitude) tables which give you an accurate position all the time,
    at any place on the globe. Everything was clean,
    there were lights, a manual-flushing toilet, a sink, and refrigerator (I did not use the fridge).

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