Comments on: Jeff Sarwer—From a child chess prodigy to a successful poker player http://www.thechessdad.com/2010/01/jeff-sarwer%e2%80%94from-a-child-chess-prodigy-to-a-successful-poker-player/ Strong mind, strong kids and strong bond Wed, 21 Dec 2011 02:46:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: TheChessDad http://www.thechessdad.com/2010/01/jeff-sarwer%e2%80%94from-a-child-chess-prodigy-to-a-successful-poker-player/comment-page-1/#comment-71 TheChessDad Tue, 29 Mar 2011 19:40:58 +0000 http://www.thechessdad.com/?p=320#comment-71 I agree. How to let kids to enjoy the game is most important in their growths. As a chess parent, however, I know it is also very hard to achieve. I agree. How to let kids to enjoy the game is most important in their growths. As a chess parent, however, I know it is also very hard to achieve.

]]> By: toy trinidad http://www.thechessdad.com/2010/01/jeff-sarwer%e2%80%94from-a-child-chess-prodigy-to-a-successful-poker-player/comment-page-1/#comment-70 toy trinidad Sat, 26 Mar 2011 09:57:53 +0000 http://www.thechessdad.com/?p=320#comment-70 too much pressure from parent(s) so no more enjoyment with that game. too much pressure from parent(s) so no more enjoyment with that game.

]]> By: TheChessDad http://www.thechessdad.com/2010/01/jeff-sarwer%e2%80%94from-a-child-chess-prodigy-to-a-successful-poker-player/comment-page-1/#comment-66 TheChessDad Thu, 10 Feb 2011 05:03:56 +0000 http://www.thechessdad.com/?p=320#comment-66 Glad you like this blog. Glad you like this blog.

]]> By: Beverly Hills Chess Club http://www.thechessdad.com/2010/01/jeff-sarwer%e2%80%94from-a-child-chess-prodigy-to-a-successful-poker-player/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Beverly Hills Chess Club Wed, 09 Feb 2011 00:52:25 +0000 http://www.thechessdad.com/?p=320#comment-64 Bravo for promoting strong relationships between parents and their children. No matter the circumstances or prodigy of the child, nothing should come between them. Glad we came across your blog! Bravo for promoting strong relationships between parents and their children. No matter the circumstances or prodigy of the child, nothing should come between them. Glad we came across your blog!

]]> By: TheChessDad http://www.thechessdad.com/2010/01/jeff-sarwer%e2%80%94from-a-child-chess-prodigy-to-a-successful-poker-player/comment-page-1/#comment-24 TheChessDad Tue, 02 Feb 2010 16:42:11 +0000 http://www.thechessdad.com/?p=320#comment-24 Yes, in my opinion, the interview by Jennifer definitely deserves a spot of at least top 5. Not getting chosen as one of the 10 “Best of CLO’s 2009″ articles by CLO is an insult to readers of CLO and the author (I think she must put a lot of effort in it). I agree with you that to be a chess parent, we must be very careful not putting too much pressure on kids, the result of putting too much pressure on kids will be counterproductive. I know it is easy said than done. As you mentioned Jeff said of Josh:"his dad put a lot of pressure on him", on the other hand, Josh's dad think Jeff's dad "demanded perfection from his kids". Maybe it is a good idea to remind ourselves over and over not to across the line. Do not kill the kids' passion for chess by our passion. Yes, in my opinion, the interview by Jennifer definitely deserves a spot of at least top 5. Not getting chosen as one of the 10 “Best of CLO’s 2009″ articles by CLO is an insult to readers of CLO and the author (I think she must put a lot of effort in it).

I agree with you that to be a chess parent, we must be very careful not putting too much pressure on kids, the result of putting too much pressure on kids will be counterproductive. I know it is easy said than done. As you mentioned Jeff said of Josh:”his dad put a lot of pressure on him”, on the other hand, Josh’s dad think Jeff’s dad “demanded perfection from his kids”.

Maybe it is a good idea to remind ourselves over and over not to across the line. Do not kill the kids’ passion for chess by our passion.

]]> By: ppmint http://www.thechessdad.com/2010/01/jeff-sarwer%e2%80%94from-a-child-chess-prodigy-to-a-successful-poker-player/comment-page-1/#comment-23 ppmint Tue, 02 Feb 2010 16:17:49 +0000 http://www.thechessdad.com/?p=320#comment-23 Come to think of it, this article was published in 2010, not 2009. Should be a strong candidate for Best of CLO 2010. Come to think of it, this article was published in 2010, not 2009. Should be a strong candidate for Best of CLO 2010.

]]> By: ppmint http://www.thechessdad.com/2010/01/jeff-sarwer%e2%80%94from-a-child-chess-prodigy-to-a-successful-poker-player/comment-page-1/#comment-22 ppmint Tue, 02 Feb 2010 15:54:32 +0000 http://www.thechessdad.com/?p=320#comment-22 I agreed with you that this is a fascinating interview by Jennifer Shahade. I'm a bit surprised that this piece didn't get chosen as one of the 10 "Best of CLO's 2009" articles. What strikes me the most about this interview, other than the life of Jeff Sarwer, was the part when Jeff talked about Josh Waitzkin: "I didn't know him that well, but I always thought he was a nice kid. .....I always felt sorry for him because it seemed like his dad put a lot of pressure on him. I remember feeling like he maybe didn't love the game much at all and if that read was correct, then he did extraordinarily well for someone in his position! ..." HE DID EXTRAORDINARILY WELL FOR SOMEONE IN HIS POSITION! In a recent tournament my son attended, I saw a father with his two sons - both played in the same tournament with my son. The father was so intense on prepping his son to play against my son on the computer...like the fate of the world depended on it! Competitive parents sometimes result in over-stressed, unhappy kids. I remind myself over and over again not to cross the line and kill my son's love for chess. I agreed with you that this is a fascinating interview by Jennifer Shahade. I’m a bit surprised that this piece didn’t get chosen as one of the 10 “Best of CLO’s 2009″ articles.

What strikes me the most about this interview, other than the life of Jeff Sarwer, was the part when Jeff talked about Josh Waitzkin: “I didn’t know him that well, but I always thought he was a nice kid. …..I always felt sorry for him because it seemed like his dad put a lot of pressure on him. I remember feeling like he maybe didn’t love the game much at all and if that read was correct, then he did extraordinarily well for someone in his position! …” HE DID EXTRAORDINARILY WELL FOR SOMEONE IN HIS POSITION!

In a recent tournament my son attended, I saw a father with his two sons – both played in the same tournament with my son. The father was so intense on prepping his son to play against my son on the computer…like the fate of the world depended on it! Competitive parents sometimes result in over-stressed, unhappy kids. I remind myself over and over again not to cross the line and kill my son’s love for chess.

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