Category: parenting

Is “Doing Less” the most wanted from middle school children for parents?

Abe is in junior high. He has quite a routine schedule and he is quite occupied. He is spending more time on his homework, has many meetings and practices on Science Olympiad. About Science Olympiad, he is doing three projects this year, two last year on the JV team. I helped him quite a bit on […]

Friday January 25th, 2013 in education, parenting, sports | No Comments »

Best usage of cash prizes kids earned from chess tournaments

Last week, when I received the check for the cash prize in the tournament I mentioned, I did not tell Abe right away. On one hand, I think I should give the whole cash prize to Abe since he earned it from chess tournaments. He earned the money and he should be able to decide […]

Monday August 1st, 2011 in chess, life, parenting, parents, sibling | 1 Comment »

Two articles about then and now of Gata Kamsky

Gata Kamsky won the 2011 US chess Championship weeks ago, and advanced to the semifinals in 2011 FIDE  Candidates Matches for the world championship by defeating Veselin Topalov days ago. Maybe he will bring us another surprise later. I found an old article about the teenager Gata and his father and a recent article about  […]

Wednesday May 11th, 2011 in adult tournament, chess, life, parenting | No Comments »


There were three junior events held concurrently at North Shore Chess Center last weekend. Most of the state top junior players competed there; it was quite a strong field. Abe continued his bad performance this month. In fact, Abe did not play that quickly in several of his games, while he lost them at the […]

Tuesday March 29th, 2011 in chess, parenting, parents | No Comments »

Lecture by Lufei Ruan

In case you do not know Ms. Ruan, she is the runner up in the 2010 Women’s World Chess Championship, and she is also a full time student pursuing her PHD degree in accounting at Carnegie Mellon University. What an opportunity it’s to join the lecture by a world elite chess player who is, at […]

Monday March 14th, 2011 in chess, instruction, parenting, parents | No Comments »

The Smartest Guy Ever and Pushy Parenting

Abe went to a chess tournament last Sunday afternoon. The tournament was great for him as he played with several strong opponents. Although the tournament last until evening, it’s no problem for us since we were no far away from home. On the way back home, I believe, I heard an interesting story from the […]

Wednesday January 26th, 2011 in adult tournament, chess, life, parenting | 2 Comments »

Like stars on earth — every child is special

Abe did fine in last weekend’s chess tournament: 2010 Illinois All Grade Championship, he won four games against four lower rated players, lost one game to a higher rated player. In the game he lost, a delicate endgame was reached and both players played well and determined, as some observers told me. The game was […]

Monday November 15th, 2010 in chess, education, life, parenting | 4 Comments »

The one benifit having kids playing chess

One chess parent told me he thought one of main benefits of having kids playing chess was the constant challenge to kids. The kids learn to deal with setbacks since they are in up and down all the time. I remember I heard more than once Abe told himself “I’d better win this one”, but […]

Tuesday November 9th, 2010 in adult tournament, chess, parenting, parents | 2 Comments »

Keep playing

In a recent tournament, one chess parent told me about his chess-playing son: “He played so little in the summer.” The boy is very talented and performed splendid from time to time. Since his parenting are very busy, he has not played much in tournaments recently. “Win or lose, I don’t care. Just keep playing.” […]

Friday October 15th, 2010 in adult tournament, chess, parenting, parents | No Comments »

“You could play better when you slow down.”

Abe said sorry after I expressed deep frustration at the Illinois Open. He said he would slow down in the next tournament. The next tournament would be about a week away. It’s a strong round robin event. I would like to see if he can keep his promise. I was asked by the organizer the […]

Tuesday September 21st, 2010 in adult tournament, chess, education, parenting, parents | 2 Comments »

“You made me angry!”

I was very frustrated with Abe’s recent performance in chess tournaments.  He likes to blitz in his games regardless of the time control. I keep reminding him to slow down.  He might realize his problem as shown in this post, but still, he will return to his bad habit very often. He did so poor […]

Wednesday September 8th, 2010 in adult tournament, chess, education, parenting, parents | 3 Comments »

Abe’s chess journey in the past four months: a ride on a roller coaster

Abe’s played in a chess tournament last Saturday, won the second place. Since the entry fee’s only five dollars, we didn’t expect any prizes. However, in the end, we were told that the park district had prepared some gifts for the winners.  Several of the top performers, including Abe, got surprise prizes. How nice! Here […]

Saturday August 7th, 2010 in adult tournament, chess, parenting, parents, sibling | 2 Comments »

A chess camp and a tournament

Last week, Abe attended a chess camp, the same camp he attended last month. There were quite a few grandmasters as instructors at the camp. The lectures in terms of depth and quality must be excellent since Abe told me they were all very good. The biggest benefit the chess camp brought to Abe, I […]

Wednesday July 21st, 2010 in adult tournament, chess, education, parenting | No Comments »

It is neither Tom and Jerry, nor America’s Got Talent!

Back in January, I heard this story from NPR. Days ago, NPR said he has been caught. As many people and the police will be relieved by this news, however, it is unexpected to hear “…there’s already talk of a movie deal. Harris-Moore’s mother, Pamela Kohler, has reportedly hired Courtney Love’s lawyer to represent her […]

Tuesday July 13th, 2010 in parenting, parents | 1 Comment »

Roger Federer and his parents

I read Anxiety On The Grass from New Yorker (issue of June 28, 2010). The article talked about Roger Federer: Unlike Agassi and countless other tennis prodigies, Federer never had to deal with pressure from an ambitious parent…His Swiss-born father… and his mother, who is South African, …played recreational tennis at the firm’s small club […]

Thursday July 1st, 2010 in education, parenting, parents, sports | No Comments »

For better or for worse

Abe played in two tournaments last weekend — one on Saturday and one on Sunday, scored one point out of  three and two points out of four,  respectively. The performance was certainly not that good, however, it wasn’t as poor as his in recent weeks either. I had been telling him all the time: 1) […]

Tuesday June 29th, 2010 in adult tournament, chess, parenting | No Comments »

Chess camp, vacation and others (1 of 2)

Abe went to a chess camp last week. There were five groups in the camp based on ratings of campers. Abe was placed in the group 5—the strongest group. Abe also came to the same camp last year, he won the first place easily in his group— group 3 at the time (there were chess tournaments  […]

Friday June 25th, 2010 in chess, parenting | 1 Comment »

A story remembered

After reading this article (The Leap) from New York Magazine, I felt very very sad. I remember a similar case happened to one of my classmates when I was in the graduate school. After the first exam, at which I did poorly, so were most in the class—many failed, as told by the professor the […]

Wednesday June 16th, 2010 in education, parenting | No Comments »

Let it be

I was glad Abe was calm and in not a bad mood this raining Saturday. If you follow this blog, you know that he’s been in a slump in chess recently. In order for him to break out of the slump, I made the following plan: 1) He should play more games. 2) He should […]


A first review of “Chess Child” by Gary Robson

About months ago, I pre-ordered the book: Chess Child: The story of Ray Robson, America’s Youngest Grandmaster. I received it two days ago, finished reading it yesterday. It has been long long time since I finish reading a book in one day, not even the book Searching for Bobby Fisher. What a great father-son story. […]

Thursday June 3rd, 2010 in books, chess, education, parenting, parents, scholastic | No Comments »